In retrospect, it was the inadequate national celebrations of the 200th Anniversary of the abolition of the Trans Atlantic Slave Trade which stands out as the greatest disappointment for me for 2007 (yes the outcome of the General Elections was equally as disappointing). But I think we squandered the opportunity to share with our youth, the significance of this milestone, and we lost out on a chance to have wholesome discussions on that moment as a gift from a liberating God, which was a turning point for Western civilization, and of particular importance to the African Diaspora. Two great truths could have been revisited as clues to the seeming breakdown of our Bahamian communities and most predominately Black societies – that Black Africans sold Black Africans into slavery, and that it holds true for descendants of Africa that it still takes a village to raise a child.
I have deliberately pointed out without pointing fingers (because we are all in this thing together), some of the dysfunctions of our people, especially those which affect us politically over the course of the past few weeks so I give them no special place during this Season. It is the significance of the “Village” which captures my heart and attention, and will be my focus should I live to see the New Year. This idea of the nuclear family as the root of our problems and solutions may not be as well thought out as we think. The developmental journey of the family structure in The Bahamas has always been one of intrigue. The “village”, extended family, and a network of key institutions (like church, the junkanoo shack, and school) have always had to help overcome the impact of rampant sweet-hearting, single parent children and those once taboo, teenage pregnancies. So many of us now however have tried to cling to the American facade of success which includes this concept of husband and wife, two point five (2.5) children and the family pet, oh yes all in a nice house with a white picket fence. This has been to our detriment as these nuclear units have been so selfishly insular in their functioning that they may have contributed in a round about way to the deterioration of supposedly interwoven communities.
Christmas for me this year ironically, involves a process of letting go of two very special members of my “Village” – non biologically related Bahamians who didn’t have to help raise me but they did, and how I thank God for them. The first is from the community of West End where almost every adult had the right as well as responsibility to love me, even scold me as a child. Although she married my Daddy’s second cousin, Austin Grant, and was one of my Mother’s closest friends (as they were both duty paid imports to West End) Mrs. Ann Grant or “Aunt Ann” as I called her was a special part of my childhood. You see, my brother and I had to walk home from kindergarten school to my Grandmother’s house as children in West End. On our trek we passed whom I refer to as the seven business matriarchs of West End – Ms. Doompey (matriarch of Johnson’s business), Sister Lilly (Hollingsworth bakery), Ms. Miriam from Butler and Sands, Aunt Ann from the STAR Hotel, Mable Colton had a take-out, then Ms. Mearle and Ms. Gregs (short for Degregory) had neighboring convenience stores. My brother and I enjoyed a special privilege on that long walk to Grandma’s however. We were the only two children often allowed in the Star as Aunt Ann if she saw us passing, was always good for a can of Canada Dry Ginger-Ale, to share between the two of us. Throughout our lives she always found a way to make us feel especially loved. God rest her soul.
The second, who is harder for me to let go, found me in my late teens but our politics caused us to attend the funeral of the late Sir Lynden Pindling together as well as a few PLP Conventions. She was not my peer and therefore I question whether I have the privilege of calling her friend, while I know I have no given right to call her Grandma or “Mama” as Biminites would say. But Mammy Syl, Sylvia Bain of Bimini assumed an unconditional loving role in my life, although we found each other late – she would fix my favorite, corn pudding whenever I went to Bimini, she pinned my clothes during wardrobe malfunctions while in hotels in Nassau, we hung out at an after convention Party one night in Nassau until the wee hours of the morning, she showed me off to her friends whenever I delivered a moving speech or popped up on her television screen during my almost first round of frontline politics, and all of my friends know the story of how she sat me down one day and made me promise to give up Gin, at a time when alcohol was such a challenge for me to overcome. I have kept that promise and her intervention in my life eventually has led to a very controlled relationship with Al (alcohol) notwithstanding the occasional glass of red wine or a cold Kalik. For all this and more I thank her, and although sadly difficult, I release her so that she may enjoy her eternal rest in the arms of The One who loves her best.
Twelve years ago, I buried my biological father, Moses Hall, one week before Christmas so I know the potential impact of loss/death on what should be a yuletide season. Enough time has passed however for me to have learned and now share that grieving over the ones gone should not take away from Christmas as being a time of celebrating life with our loved ones who remain. What I also know for sure, as Oprah might say, is that stepping outside of home and returning to the ideal of “Village” opens a world of opportunities, rights, and responsibilities to give, receive, and share in the magic and boundless mystery of love – and God is love. If not friends or family, let us be “village” then - we may end up raising our next generation in the process. Happy Holidays!